It isn’t always easy to talk about one’s feelings. When you grow up in a family where these sharing opportunities were never encouraged, the natural inclination might be to bottle everything up.
The only problem is that bottled-up emotions explode at some point. When that release happens, you never know what the outcomes might be.
That’s why it helps to take these steps when you need to speak with someone about your emotions.
1. Identify Your Feelings and Accept Them
Although people say that your feelings matter all the time, what does that mean? This advice suggests that you can accept who you are when you identify your reactions to specific situations. It’s okay to feel angry, lonely, or abandoned. Instead of labeling yourself negatively, think about how you can alter your case to start feeling better.
2. Don’t Minimize
People communicate digitally more than they do in person these days. Although it makes connections easier to form, it also produces a barrier between individuals. Some become more courageous with their words, while others pretend to be something they are not. We often minimize emotions in these texts by adding a LOL or an appropriate emoji to “take the edge” off the experience someone else feels.
No one wants to be rejected or abandoned. If we can’t be honest with the people closest to us, how authentic can that relationship be?
3. Use the Sandwich Methodology
It can be challenging to hear that you’ve done something wrong. It is even harder to communicate that fact to someone you respect or love. When you use the positive-negative-positive sandwich method for communication, it’s much easier to offer something constructive without hurting feelings.
When we focus on our strengths, it is much easier to talk about our emotions. If we can be non-judgmental about these conversations, we can get to know each other much better.